Guest Blog by Valerie Delong

Valerie is the owner of Feng Shui Concepts, she is a Certified Feng Shui
Practitioner, a student of the Nine Harmonies School of Feng Shui under Carol Bridges.  She has studied under Master Lin Yun, founder of the BTB school of feng shui, as well as other experts in the field of feng shui.You can find Val at
http://www.fengshuiconcepts.net/home.html

Is it hot enough for everyone?  Mother Nature is definitely “on fire” these days, and we’re feeling her heat…..maybe she’s trying to get our attention?   I think it’s interesting that so many people complain about the weather, even though we live in the south where it’s hot and muggy in the summer, so this is to be expected (although we have had record-breaking temps recently). 
Perspective is a way of looking at things, and everyone has their own perspective which is based largely on the culmination of their life experiences.  Two people will look at the same scenario and each will have their own perspective.  Neither is wrong, just as neither is right; they are just different.  Too many times we are quick to judge another’s perspective as wrong if it doesn’t match ours, and this only separates.  If we’re ever to become a community of people (in whatever way that has meaning for you), one of the things we’ll need to do is get rid of the good/bad right/wrong win/lose thinking. 



 
 
As an example, parents may have differing points of view on how to discipline a child; each parent’s idea is different, and each may think their way is the “right” way.  If a decision is made based on this, it means that someone will have to be “wrong”, which creates bad feelings.  What if, instead, both parents worked together to come up with a solution that worked for both of them?  Yes, this takes thinking outside the box, getting into more creative/possibility thinking – but it’s also a win-win scenario and the end result is that everyone is happy. 
Once you understand that each person’s idea stems from their own (valid) perspective, you can then have more compassion for them, even though you may not agree with them.  You honor and respect the other person when you work with them to find a solution that feels good to all, giving up your need to be right.  From a feng shui perspective, finding a solution that works for everyone is always the best way – because it “feels good”!